Mindful Mama..

As a Psychologist…I truly believe in the practice of mindfulness.

As a Mama, I have been challenged to not just teach but to practice what it means to be mindful.

“Mindfulness is a state of mind…it means paying attention in a particular way, on purpose, in the present moment, non-judgmentally”.

I’m sure most Mamas can relate to the experience of having a ‘FULL MIND’ rather than the experience of feeling ‘MNDFUL’. As a Mama there are always so many thoughts, questions, things to remember ‘what time is the next nap, what should we have for dinner, when was the last poop, ok I have one hour of baby free time…what should I get done’…..and the lists go on and on…..no wonder our minds feel so full.

Sometimes, I get to the end of a day and reflect, thinking to myself, what was it about today that made things feel rushed and chaotic…..and I find myself noticing…it was the thoughts moving through and around my mind, rather than actually what experiences, challenges, and triumphs the day contained.

For me, this poem is a perfect reminder of the importance of slowing down, taking time to see, feel, hear and connect with the wonderful experiences that Mamahood can bring.

Yes its tough, yes it takes thought and effort, but wow is it worth it.  Its worth it for the relationship I have with my babies and for my own mental health and well being.

 More on Mindfulness to come…..

Slow down mummy, there is no need to rush,

Slow down mummy, what is all the fuss?

Slow down mummy, make yourself a tea.

Slow down mummy, come spend time with me.

 

Slow down mummy, let’s pull boots on for a walk,

Letts kick piles of leaves, and smile and laugh and talk.

Slow down mummy, you look ever so tired,

Come sit and snuggle under the duvet,

And rest with me for a while.

 

Slow down mummy, those dirty dishes can wait,

Slow down mummy, let’s have some fun – bake a cake.

Slow down mummy, I know you work a lot,

But sometimes mummy, it’s nice when you just stop.

 

Sit with us a minute,

And listen to our day,

Spend a cherished moment,

Because our childhood wont stay!

 R. Knight.

 If you are interested in learning more about mindfulness, there are two wonderful App’s (‘Smiling Mind’ and ‘Mind the Bump’) are non-for-profit app based programs that have been designed to help bring balance to lives. The app is free to download, and can be a great way to start learning the practice of mindfulness.

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Moments….

Life is unpredictable,

It changes with the seasons,

Even your coldest winter,

Happens for the best of reasons,

And though it feels eternal,

Like all you’ll ever do is freeze,

I promise spring is coming,

And with it, brand new leaves.

e.h

Before mama hood, I would have read this and thought…’what a nice poem’ it depicts hope for those experiencing difficult times. I may have bought it into the therapy room for my clients and used it to resemble the journey of mental health difficulties, as a reminder that although some emotional states like depression and anxiety feel like they will last forever, emotional states change…just like the seasons…with time, with help and sometimes with hard work.

As a Mama reading this……it meant so much more…..it was a timely reminder that there are moments of mama hood that seem to last an eternity…..those moments when your little love is crying and you just don’t know why….those moments where you have had minimal sleep and feel that you may just crumble if your toast gets burnt…..those moments where all you really want is to have a shower and a hot cup of tea……this poem, for me, is a reminder that these times are just moments….moments that combine with moments of joy, hope, love, humility, contentment and so much more……moments that join together to form this wondrous journey of mama hood.

Mamahood is unpredictable,

It changes day to day,

Even the hardest moments,

Happen for some unknown reason, hey?!?

And though it feels the sleep deprivation or crying will last forever,

I promise, a new day is coming,

And with it the baby smiles and love you feel will put the pieces of this puzzle all back together.

m.f

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To Be Good Enough….

Another of my pieces has been published in this months issue of Wonderful Mama….take a peak and I hope you enjoy!!

Follow the link below

To Be Good Enough

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