I thought I knew…
As a professional in the field of mental and emotional well-being, I will be honest in saying that I felt confident and mostly prepared as I entered into this journey called motherhood.
As a psychologist who works with mums and dads during pregnancy and early parenthood, I empathise, support and guide parents through the ups and the downs of this rollercoaster ride.
I have spent years learning and training in the areas of infant and child development, attachment and parenting.
Because of this, I honestly felt that I would have the emotional and mental health stuff sorted….surely!!!!!?????!!
At this point I imagine a pause on the movie screen that plays my life, as a subtitle moves slowly across the bottom of the screen below a picture of me looking less than glamorous…..the subtitle reads ”psychologist/mama meets pregnancy hormones and new born baby”.
Turns out I’m one of the mums we as health professionals flag as a flight risk when it comes to emotional struggles during pregnancy and parenthood. You know those mums that like all there ducks lined up in a row, those high achiever, organsed types……yup that’s me!!!!
Don’t get me wrong, I didn’t think or believe that I was above the mama experiences of unmet expectations or the all mighty ‘mother guilt’ (I cant count how many times I have said ‘I should’ since becoming a mama). I just thought since I knew the risk factors, I know what’s helpful, I teach the skills and have experienced the journey with so many beautiful and inspirational mamas…. surely I would have this sorted!!!!!!!
Wow!!!!!!! Was I in for surprise. The intensity of the feelings bought on by these little beings is something I could have never prepared myself for. The rawness of the emotions felt as a mama caught me of guard like a blast of cold wind.
The endless unconditional love, the mama bear like protectiveness, the self doubt, the sleep deprivation, the hormones, the relationship adjustments and the self and role adjustments have been and continue to be the most challenging, rewarding journey of my life.
I would love to share with fellow mamas my real experiences on learning to cope (or try to cope) with the emotional change of self that comes along with becoming a mama to the most incredible little beings.
My first article published by Wonderful Mama!