I thought I Knew…

I thought I knew…

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As a professional in the field of mental and emotional well-being, I will be honest in saying that I felt confident and mostly prepared as I entered into this journey called motherhood.

 

As a psychologist who works with mums and dads during pregnancy and early parenthood, I empathise, support and guide parents through the ups and the downs of this rollercoaster ride.

 

I have spent years learning and training in the areas of infant and child development, attachment and parenting.

 

Because of this, I honestly felt that I would have the emotional and mental health stuff sorted….surely!!!!!?????!!

 

At this point I imagine a pause on the movie screen that plays my life, as a subtitle moves slowly across the bottom of the screen below a picture of me looking less than glamorous…..the subtitle reads ”psychologist/mama meets pregnancy hormones and new born baby”.

 

Turns out I’m one of the mums we as health professionals flag as a flight risk when it comes to emotional struggles during pregnancy and parenthood. You know those mums that like all there ducks lined up in a row, those high achiever, organsed types……yup that’s me!!!!

 

Don’t get me wrong, I didn’t think or believe that I was above the mama experiences of unmet expectations or the all mighty ‘mother guilt’ (I cant count how many times I have said ‘I should’ since becoming a mama). I just thought since I knew the risk factors, I know what’s helpful, I teach the skills and have experienced the journey with so many beautiful and inspirational mamas…. surely I would have this sorted!!!!!!!

 

Wow!!!!!!! Was I in for surprise. The intensity of the feelings bought on by these little beings is something I could have never prepared myself for. The rawness of the emotions felt as a mama caught me of guard like a blast of cold wind.

 

The endless unconditional love, the mama bear like protectiveness, the self doubt, the sleep deprivation, the hormones, the relationship adjustments and the self and role adjustments have been and continue to be the most challenging, rewarding journey of my life.

 

I would love to share with fellow mamas my real experiences on learning to cope (or try to cope) with the emotional change of self that comes along with becoming a mama to the most incredible little beings.

 

My first article published by Wonderful Mama!

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A quick Q&A to help you get to know who is behind Mama Be Frank…..

1. One word to describe your family………Whole.
2. The last time you pulled his face ……..emoticon? I pull this face on a daily basis.. as I back away from my one year old’s cot like a ninja.. nervously anticipating the moment I hear ‘waaaaah’!!
3. Favourite TV show? FRIENDS!! I can’t get enough. I watched it so much during pregnancy and whilst breastfeeding that my baby girl now waves at the TV when its playing.
4. If you had three hours of ‘me time’ how would you spend it? Oooooh the options seem endless.. pampering.. sitting down for a long uninterrupted scrumptious dinner.. sleeeeeeping (pregnant mama of one year old votes sleep).

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Blogging?!?!…….who would have thought that becoming a Mama would have led me down a path of building on my social media skills!!!   As a Mama of an affectionate, mischievous 1 year old baby girl, step Mama of a handsome and witty 9 year old boy, and Mama to be of a little 15 week old precious peanut….surely I’ve got enough going on right?!?!

Truth is, I was given a wonderful opportunity to write an article for a wonderful Magazine…..WONDERFUL MAMA!!!! This opportunity was hard to refuse as it gave me the opportunity to combine my two passions…being a mum to my beautiful children and being a psychologist to many amazing to be, new and second/third/fourth time parents and their kiddies!

This one article has led me to explore other ways I can share my experiences and my truths……..

You might be asking the question…how on earth do those two universe’s (motherhood and psychology) combine to create one passion…..and what does that even look like?!?

Here is my first frank truth….I thought (without thinking) that as a professional who was trained and practiced in the areas of emotional wellbeing during pregnancy and early parenthood and parenting…that I would have this stuff sorted as I entered into the journey of motherhood!! But the truth is I was far from realizing what it meant to actually live out some of the things that I encouraged my clients to be mindful of and to try.

And that’s where my passion is…. being real, being honest, being FRANK, as a MAMA to other MAMAS and Dads, and as a professional…..in sharing my experiences and my knowledge, in hope that they may help other MAMA’s, MAMA to be’s and fathers……in some way.

So I hope you find comfort, reassurance, inspiration or amusement from some of my truths, experiences, knowledge and stories.

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